Life Transitions

From Preschool to TK

There was a time in my life where things seemed really slow and stagnant. Then our daughter was born and I’ve been trying to keep up ever since. That sums up how it feels to have her transition from preschool into a “real” school. She seems okay but I can tell I’m not quite ready. The silver lining is a bit of savings but when you add the cost of before and after school care it’s not that much.

Then there’s the worry of the uniform. Trying hard to not think of it as a toddler business suit…which then prompts me to the hard and awesome reality that she’s not a toddler. She’s a little girl and my heart aches but is optimistic that I may sleep one day again in the future.

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Transforming

Worry Into Optimism

What about summers when school is out? It’s not like I get more time off of work. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night worried about signing her up for camp, after school lessons, birthday parties, cool things that other kids due that we don’t do.

Overall feeling like a hot mess mom. So, I’m just going to focus on the last couple of weeks of what remains of this routine and will dial back my worry. Strange how we try to set the tone for our children when in actuality sometimes we need to look to them. Through her eyes I see the excitement, the cautious optimism, and the thrill of possibility.

Tools For Celebrations
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Tools for Celebrations

While planning for birthdays can be fun they can also sneak up on you with all the other things you do to keep life moving.

Here are some tips on keeping TWTWD simple.


Best source for cards, bags, and tissue paper

Dollar tree is kind of like IKEA. It's more of a place we all need to go rather than want to go. I LOVE Paper Source. Everything is whimsical, beautiful, and on trend. $25 is also the price point for most things, and it makes things a bit out of reach say for a 3 year olds birthday party...and let's be honest the hours aren't really friendly for working people. So, let's just decide to embrace that dollar store life whole heartedly. How many are you planning for?

Planning

Let's simplify the planning here a bit using with a real life example. Get a total count so you can limit how you buy, potentially waste, and reduce the number of times you go to the store. We typically go to 5 birthday's a year for kids since my children are still small. Then I think about adults who need gifts and cards, and those who just need cards, and let's be honest there are a bunch of people I call and/or message and/or Facebook. 



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Getting Organized

Ahead of time

Checklist for Cards and Gifts

Who I think about

My children

5 children we know

Partner/spouse 

My partner/spouses parent(s)

My parent(s)

Grandparent(s)

Great grandparents

Relatives we are close to

Close friends

What I get

Card/Bag/Tissue Paper

Small toys gifts 

Party favors

Party supplies - utensils, bins, table cloth, decorations


Pro Tip

February - April is a great time to buy party supplies and favors from either Dollar Tree or Target. The colors are bright and everything is stocked. By the time December roles around for my daughters birthday everything is white, gold silver, and snow flaky, or is sold out. I've never regretted having something on hand even if it wasn't what birthday dreams are made of. 

The Work That We Do
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Kin Keeping

The work you don’t know you’re already doing

What is the work that we do? Do you answer the call?

The other night I was in the 24 our Kaiser Pharmacy. It was a small room next to the larger pharmacy which had been closed for the night (it was 11:50pm). No one was there and I had been sent from the advice nurse to pick up medication for my one year old son and despite the prescription being called in, spending an hour on the phone with an advice nurse, and giving them 30 minutes it still was not ready

I wanted to say something but after 6 hours of crying and vomiting I gave in and let it go. I looked around the small room and sat down looking at the other side of the pharmacy that at any other time would have been bustling with people. I noticed all the restocked shelves, and all the things that I wished I could pick-up while I was there (band aids, cough drops, children’s Tylenol, thermometer, arch support things for shoes i’d been meaning to try). I thought about the things my family would need in the next two weeks, and the groceries that weren't bought, and the laundry detergent...did we need some? And on and on and on.

And that's the work that we do isn't it? Holding babies and loved ones when they are sick, sitting in vomit for hours if it means holding your dearest ones are brought some relief, calling the nurse and having a list of symptoms and temperatures, being an advocate for your family, doing the leg work of finding a 24 hour pharmacy, setting an alarm to get there right when the medication has been called in, and in general not losing your shit too much when all you want to do is scream. 

The work that we do is all of those things and more. It's the work that no one else sees but you do anyway because it's got to get done. You may not know how or why. It's just a fact. I'm on a quest to understand the what and why behind the work that we do. I believe it can be a bridge to build community instead of separateness. I believe in the power of the work to bring us closer together to different and like minded people. There are things that we are all willing to do for others that we aren't willing to do for our ourselves....and there may be its true power...an ability to motivate to do things that we never otherwise would to help someone else unselfishly....but can't there be a better way to do it? A more organized protocol to GSD? And can't it be joyous? Maybe not all the time but at least some of the time?

Let's engage in conversation about what life is really like and make tools to advance the work and our lives to be fulfilled but not frantic. Let's ask the big questions and hear what each other has to say. Most importantly let's ignite a conversation around the work that we do and use it as a vehicle to connect in big and small ways. Let's face challenges head on and still find joy in the little things.